Please Stop Saying...

Tips to help stop your child saying 'no' or 'why?' a lot

By Alexandra Smith

Aquadraw products are great to avoid the 'No!' of children drawing
on the walls, themselves and the furniture as the pen only uses water.
Sometimes children go through phases of saying 'no' or 'why?'. This can be annoying and cause problems if it upsets you so here are four tips to help if your child is unhelpfully repeating a word or phrase such as 'no':

1) Try to think positively about your child having the confidence to disagree, argue or question because these are good life-skills. Perhaps ask questions which can't be answered with 'no,' such as 'Would you like to wear jeans or shorts?' so there's a choice and you've shown them two different words to use as answers.

2) Remember that children have a limited vocabulary so think of other ways they could say 'no' to help them extend what they're trying to tell you. You could give them suggestions, e.g. 'Do you mean 'No thank you,' or 'Not now, I'd like that later'?'

3) Do you or does someone else say 'no' a lot to your child? If they hear 'no' a lot, they'll think it's normal to say 'no' a lot. Try to avoid saying 'no' and say things like 'Please don't do that,' instead. The more other words and phrases your child hears, the more likely they are to use them.

4) Teachers are trained to use positive instructional phrases instead of using negative instructions like 'no' or 'don't' so they should tell a child 'I want you to walk,' instead of saying 'Don't run.' This is supposed to help the child to identify what to do rather than becoming frustrated with all the things they shouldn't do. If you say things like 'Can you bang this drum instead of the TV?' for example then you may avoid yourself and them saying 'no.'

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